Comments on: My INTJ

By: Corin

Corin — Thu, 03 Nov 2011 14:40:20 +0000

When it comes to relationships, most people by default tend to enter relationships to balance out perceived voids. Voids becomes values. If you perceive fun as missing from your life then fun becomes something you value. In turn, you try to meet fun people to fill that perceived void. Basically, you get attracted to people who you think will fill missing pieces in your life. Some of the things you want to fill may be more prevalent in some personality types than others. However, what a person perceives is missing is very individualized based on history and not personality.

ENFPs tend to be more physically affectionate, happy-go-lucky, emotionally warmer, etc. If an INTJ perceives those qualities are what’s missing from their life then that’s who they’ll be drawn towards.

By: INFP

INFP — Thu, 03 Nov 2011 05:57:54 +0000

How does the INTJ – INFP relate to the ever lauded INTJ – ENFP “perfect match”? I’m a female INFP dating a male INTJ, but he’s developed feelings for an ENFP (I think partially because of all the research about those being the best possible match). Is there something to this?

By: Sanddunes

Sanddunes — Sat, 24 Sep 2011 10:00:54 +0000

Really grateful for this entry- it’s a good affirmation of the beautiful INFP-INTJ r’ship I have right now. In others’ eyes it’s a really weird r’ship, but it always amazes me how well it works. Hope you write more about yours.

By: rachel

rachel — Sat, 25 Jun 2011 03:53:43 +0000

seriously, what is it with this pairing? great compatibility although i wish he were more spontaneous sometimes.. he probably wishes I was more logical sometimes

-infp female, married to intj male

By: helen

helen — Tue, 14 Jun 2011 05:59:55 +0000

i am deeply encouraged because i began dating an INTJ! I am so happy to find this blog. I keep coming back here; it’s like a breath of fresh air! I surely hope I can interact with you, Corin! I am most certain to learn so much from your rich experience as an INFP!

By: Corin

Corin — Mon, 12 Jul 2010 08:56:02 +0000

One of my good friend is an ENTJ. I’ve always gotten along with ENTJs. I don’t take things personally and I stand my ground when they start treading on things I have strong feelings about. They’re always surprised when I stand my ground the first time. My reply is always the same, just because I don’t say anything about all the other stuff doesn’t mean I agree with you or that I think that you were right. The other stuff wasn’t important enough to bother disagreeing with.

By: Mark

Mark — Wed, 07 Jul 2010 01:43:43 +0000

I’m a gay male INFP and have a close transgender (MTF) friend who I just figured out is ENTJ. I always asked her to take the online test but she never did. Initially, I had typed her as ESTJ. I was one letter off.

Then one day BOOM! It hit me… DUH! How did I miss this? How can she NOT be an ENTJ???

She’s a big wig… literally and also heads a big company in a big office with a big chair and knows everything. Or at leasted acts like she does.

Although I’ve become a skeptic at times, I’ll give it to her for the ability to wing-it in unfamiliar topics. Pretending like she is the expert. I used to always fall for it, being the typical gullible INFP.

I see how she can sometimes alienate others who do not understand this type. She often picks on everyone, but she’s just being funny. If she’s not giving you shit, then she probably doesn’t like you.

Mark – AZ | GAYS

By: Corin

Corin — Tue, 06 Jul 2010 21:55:55 +0000

One of my good friends is an ENTJ. I tend to like the bluntness. However, most of my ENTJ friends have great communication skills. It’s the occasional ENTJ that hasn’t fine-tuned their communications skills that I find off-putting.

By: entj personality

entj personality — Tue, 06 Jul 2010 20:59:46 +0000

This is a great post. NTJs generally get along great with NFPs. I've seen many examples in real life. Check out this article on entj infp compatibility

By: Joy

Joy — Sun, 27 Jun 2010 14:53:54 +0000

hi, Im a INTJ going out with an ENFP. I laughed so much when you said
“I’ve always believed that if my life was crap, burdening someone else with the responsibility to relieve the crappiness is just a crappy thing to do someone. They have their own crap to deal with.” Iv always felt the same way, but my boyfriend on the other hand almost wants me to set the responsibility of making me happy on him. And he wants me to do the same. I feel perfectly able to do that for him, but I dont think he could do that for me (on a regular basis) because ENFPs are like bouncy balls, they never go back to the same place twice!