Comments on: Myth of the soulmate http://www.infpblog.com/favorites/myth-of-the-soulmate/ Thoughts on the INFP Personality Type from an INFP Tue, 27 Jul 2010 17:34:59 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Mark http://www.infpblog.com/favorites/myth-of-the-soulmate/comment-page-1/#comment-2237 Mark Thu, 22 Jul 2010 02:02:14 +0000 http://www.infpblog.com/?p=204#comment-2237 It's not the perceiving that's the problem--its the idealism! We can perceive flaws in ourselves and others all to well! Don't settle, but you said it, you don't have to be understood perfectly--just enough. It’s not the perceiving that’s the problem–its the idealism! We can perceive flaws in ourselves and others all to well!

Don’t settle, but you said it, you don’t have to be understood perfectly–just enough.

]]> By: Corin http://www.infpblog.com/favorites/myth-of-the-soulmate/comment-page-1/#comment-2163 Corin Mon, 12 Jul 2010 08:45:13 +0000 http://www.infpblog.com/?p=204#comment-2163 This is very hard, but other people not just girls respond better at the beginning of relationships if they're not the most important things in your life. There so much less pressure on you and on them at the beginning when you have other activities and goals that are much much more important that having a relationship. My wife was about 4th on my list when I first met her. Writing, dancing and personal development came before relationships. We dated but I had more important things and so did she. I enjoyed spending time with her, but mostly I focused on writing and dancing. We really didn't start become important to each other until 6 or 8 months later. It was about 14 months after we started dating when I realized that she'd become one of the most important things in my life was when I decided to ask her to marry me. This is very hard, but other people not just girls respond better at the beginning of relationships if they’re not the most important things in your life. There so much less pressure on you and on them at the beginning when you have other activities and goals that are much much more important that having a relationship.

My wife was about 4th on my list when I first met her. Writing, dancing and personal development came before relationships. We dated but I had more important things and so did she. I enjoyed spending time with her, but mostly I focused on writing and dancing. We really didn’t start become important to each other until 6 or 8 months later. It was about 14 months after we started dating when I realized that she’d become one of the most important things in my life was when I decided to ask her to marry me.

]]> By: Hekutoru http://www.infpblog.com/favorites/myth-of-the-soulmate/comment-page-1/#comment-2108 Hekutoru Fri, 09 Jul 2010 07:03:45 +0000 http://www.infpblog.com/?p=204#comment-2108 I have a question, when ever the girl that i like talks to me i kinda get an emotionally "explosion". where i get shy, scared of being rejected, and i just can't think about what i should say back, i also feel like leaving the room because am afraid of other people listining to my conversation, and it happens at concerts, are activitys with the band, do you have any advice on how i can overcome it, are how i can tell that she likes me. (am a clarinet player for the band, i hate the part where we perform lol.) I have a question, when ever the girl that i like talks to me i kinda get an emotionally “explosion”. where i get shy, scared of being rejected, and i just can’t think about what i should say back, i also feel like leaving the room because am afraid of other people listining to my conversation, and it happens at concerts, are activitys with the band, do you have any advice on how i can overcome it, are how i can tell that she likes me. (am a clarinet player for the band, i hate the part where we perform lol.)

]]> By: Jennifer M. http://www.infpblog.com/favorites/myth-of-the-soulmate/comment-page-1/#comment-1668 Jennifer M. Mon, 10 May 2010 03:18:00 +0000 http://www.infpblog.com/?p=204#comment-1668 Ouch. That's a very good point. I met (who I thought was) my soulmate in college; he and I had amazing conversations and he's one of the only people I ever felt truly "got" me. Unfortunately he moved on with life, didn't want a relationship with me, and yet I still find myself clinging to the notion that he is "the one" for me. Sometimes I wonder if that's why I have such trouble finding a guy now. Maybe I'm still clinging to that ideal that I had back then and not letting go or reassessing what's important. Definitely something I'll need to think about. Ouch. That’s a very good point. I met (who I thought was) my soulmate in college; he and I had amazing conversations and he’s one of the only people I ever felt truly “got” me. Unfortunately he moved on with life, didn’t want a relationship with me, and yet I still find myself clinging to the notion that he is “the one” for me. Sometimes I wonder if that’s why I have such trouble finding a guy now. Maybe I’m still clinging to that ideal that I had back then and not letting go or reassessing what’s important. Definitely something I’ll need to think about.

]]> By: Jennifer M. http://www.infpblog.com/favorites/myth-of-the-soulmate/comment-page-1/#comment-1667 Jennifer M. Mon, 10 May 2010 03:11:23 +0000 http://www.infpblog.com/?p=204#comment-1667 Yeah I agree w/ you on this. I definitely feel that I "get" people much more than they "get" me. I confess I still hold onto the souldmate ideal, but mainly b/c I don't want to settle for someone who doesn't "get" me. Yeah I agree w/ you on this. I definitely feel that I “get” people much more than they “get” me. I confess I still hold onto the souldmate ideal, but mainly b/c I don’t want to settle for someone who doesn’t “get” me.

]]> By: Jennifer M. http://www.infpblog.com/favorites/myth-of-the-soulmate/comment-page-1/#comment-1666 Jennifer M. Mon, 10 May 2010 03:09:33 +0000 http://www.infpblog.com/?p=204#comment-1666 That's a good point. The worst relationships I've been in are the ones that I ignored my intuition about. I tend to convince myself that I can change that other person and that never ends up working well. That’s a good point. The worst relationships I’ve been in are the ones that I ignored my intuition about. I tend to convince myself that I can change that other person and that never ends up working well.

]]> By: Jennifer M. http://www.infpblog.com/favorites/myth-of-the-soulmate/comment-page-1/#comment-1665 Jennifer M. Mon, 10 May 2010 03:07:57 +0000 http://www.infpblog.com/?p=204#comment-1665 Excellent book! I'm constantly referring people to that one, too. Excellent book! I’m constantly referring people to that one, too.

]]> By: ockhamdesign http://www.infpblog.com/favorites/myth-of-the-soulmate/comment-page-1/#comment-1617 ockhamdesign Wed, 05 May 2010 23:50:11 +0000 http://www.infpblog.com/?p=204#comment-1617 INFPs have much in common but at the same time were so uniquely individual. If you want to connect with other INFPs and discover all the different shapes and psyches of INFPs, I would recommend checking out the forums on Personality Cafe or Facebook. You can find those links under my <a href="http://www.infpblog.com/resources/social-networking/" rel="nofollow">Social Networking Resources</a>. INFPs have much in common but at the same time were so uniquely individual. If you want to connect with other INFPs and discover all the different shapes and psyches of INFPs, I would recommend checking out the forums on Personality Cafe or Facebook. You can find those links under my Social Networking Resources.

]]> By: Here and Now http://www.infpblog.com/favorites/myth-of-the-soulmate/comment-page-1/#comment-1616 Here and Now Wed, 05 May 2010 22:18:48 +0000 http://www.infpblog.com/?p=204#comment-1616 This blog has been an absolute GODSEND! I am just learning that I am an INFP and reading all of the comments have FINALLY made me feel as if SOMEBODY gets it! Are there conventions designed for our personalities? If not, it would be a great idea for someone to initiate! This blog has been an absolute GODSEND! I am just learning that I am an INFP and reading all of the comments have FINALLY made me feel as if SOMEBODY gets it! Are there conventions designed for our personalities? If not, it would be a great idea for someone to initiate!

]]> By: hello http://www.infpblog.com/favorites/myth-of-the-soulmate/comment-page-1/#comment-1497 hello Mon, 19 Apr 2010 05:55:14 +0000 http://www.infpblog.com/?p=204#comment-1497 right, I guess "shallow" is not a good way to put it. I can be extreme in my choice of words sometimes. (Is that an INFP thing?) have you ever posted something about how you met/ended up with your wife? It's not exactly the theme of your blog but I think it could be helpful/interesting right, I guess “shallow” is not a good way to put it. I can be extreme in my choice of words sometimes. (Is that an INFP thing?)

have you ever posted something about how you met/ended up with your wife? It’s not exactly the theme of your blog but I think it could be helpful/interesting

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