Comments on: Time for change

By: H

Fri, 02 Jul 2010 05:07:17 +0000

Amazing. This is like reading an INFP owner’s manual. I’ve needed one for a long time. Turns out I’ve been going in reverse for a while now!

By: Amanda

Amanda — Sun, 13 Jun 2010 15:57:21 +0000

That was beautifully stated. Thank you Corin.

By: Corin

Corin — Tue, 01 Jun 2010 17:21:16 +0000

There’s a quote that I love: You’re either making yourself better or letting yourself get worse. Basically, you have to be proactive in becoming your Ideal Self. It doesn’t happen on it’s own.

Self-confidence is like a muscle. If you don’t work out, your physical muscles atrophy. However, if you try to lift too much weight too fast then those muscles get injured. Same with self-confidence. If I have a large goal that’s way out of my comfort zone, then I chunk the goal into smaller pieces. As I complete each chunk, the large goal becomes less scary.

By: steph

steph — Tue, 01 Jun 2010 16:57:13 +0000

Thanks. I would love to read more about “molting”. This is a process I generally avoid because it is so uncomfortable and scary for me. I would love to hear more about ur ideas on this and possibly some encouraging insights on the eventual improvements it could have on my character. I appreciate ur blog tons so thAnks!

By: Sue London

Sue London — Tue, 23 Feb 2010 17:19:41 +0000

Like everyone else, my primary response is “yep!” Especially about the decision making difficulties and always feeling like there are diametrically opposed forces. My decision-making ability has driven my husband crazy at times. He actually stopped me right before we walked into a Wendy’s once and said, “Ok. We’re about to go in and you only ever order one of two things. Why don’t you choose between them now so that you don’t stare at the menu for half an hour?” To which I replied, “But what if there’s something new on the menu that I haven’t tried before that looks really good?” Oh, the trials for those married to an INFP! At times like this I always say to him drolly “Well, you married her.” To which he replies, “And I would again.”

I’ve only been through one major molt in my life. I should go through one now but there isn’t really a chance to retreat from everything. How often do you go through them? Maybe we should all put our INFP heads together and figure out the warning signs, patterns, timeframes, and best ways to accommodate the molt because, as most of us have already noted, this is not an easy process nor do the people around us understand it very well (which is to say – at all).

By: bluebluesky

bluebluesky — Mon, 22 Feb 2010 18:38:52 +0000

I can definetly relate. It is something i have noticed only within this past year for me. You really describe it well too. I hope that the changes go well and you find the new feel appealing : )

Thanks for writing this : )

By: zkairos

zkairos — Sat, 20 Feb 2010 12:16:50 +0000

I can really relate to this. I think “molting” is very true to the INFP experience. I personally have been through a moulting stage a few years back. I am really starting to feel the effect of changes which might have seemed like minor course-corrections before but have resulted in a dramatic change to where I ended up now. I agree change happens in an instant, and the hardest part is fighting the initial resistance to the change and being persistent.

Good Luck with your changes and happy molting

By: Dan

Dan — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 14:36:00 +0000

“You can’t do the same things and expect a different result.” – On a similiar note, my FB quote is “If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got”. — Insanity can be described as doing the same thing, in the same way and expecting different results.

By: Dusk

Dusk — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 06:30:00 +0000

Again, you say what I’ve never been able to explain to others. I too have come to a point in my life where I feel its time to burn down the old structures I built up, and start again. Like a phoenix I plan on rising again. Different from the old me. I’ve been holed up at home due to a bad ankle sprain. I’m doing nothing but thinking, been letting all my relationships fall into a void. While I decide my fate. It’s probably not so healthy to do it this way, but I’ve always done it this way. I’m a different person than I ever thought i’d be. I’m rambling, sorry. Excellent post sir, thank you for your musings. You’ve helped me come to terms with the fact that there are others who think like me. I’m not a total anomaly in a system not built for me. The end I’m really not, half as sad as I sound LOL.

By: ockhamdesign

ockhamdesign — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 06:07:45 +0000

For me, it’s just trying to get myself closer to my Ideal Self. The only difference between a rut and a grave is when you decide to stop digging.

I’m tired of digging.