I thought my career goals were right on the money in college, after graduating from high school valedictorian, I got most of my college paid for and decided on a major right away. I thought the most expensive college would give me the most impressive degree. Now I’m in debt and I decided not to go into the field of my degree. I should have listened when I was told it doesn’t matter where your degree comes from, and it’s ok to switch majors. I was good at school, it defined me, and now look where I am. I really DO reach for advice and knowledge from other people than myself, but I think my problem comes from picking and choosing that advice which fits with the ideas I already held, and discarding the rest. That is where I’m experiencing my trouble. Do you find you do that? Even in these wealth seminars, do you see yourself consciously or unconsciously picking and choosing the ideas that already fit comfortably in your world or are you able to see where you are wrong on an idea and change your mind? I think the real work, at least for me, is being conscious that I tend towards the former!

“I think that was my biggest hangup as an INFP in my 20s. I was adamant about who I was and what I liked and what I didn’t like and what I felt comfortable doing and what I thought wasn’t me. All those restrictions of this-is-me and this-isn’t-me as I got older became a very small box to try to fit myself in.”

I…see this a lot whenever she writes things. It always puzzled me, because I would see her do something directive or more extroverted and do so well, and then she’d write about how when she does so, she doesn’t feel like herself. I usually ended up wondering why. I’ve got a better understanding of why now, I think, though I feel that she still thinks of it in terms of placing herself in a limiting box rather than truly making the changes she wants for herself.