The tricky part I’ve encountered with deciding your happiness is that it’s an evolving process. What makes you happy when you’re 20 may no longer make you happy when you’re 40. I’m not talking about the goals but process. It’s the journey that brings me happiness, but the path I started in my 20′s which made me happy that the time didn’t make me as happy in my 30′s so I had to switch paths.

I am still coming to terms with the fact that meaning is a choice, and that happiness is whatever you decide it is. I never seem to look forward to things like other people do because I know that they’ll never be as great as I think they’re going to be… but I’m now realizing that things aren’t great because I’m not making them great. I appreciate this blog very much because it’s helping me come out of the denial phase of my life that I seem to be going through (I’m still in college and have the support of my parents). I look forward to reading more from you.

She too has found it useful. One of the things she loves about me is the fact that I’m able to keep her grounded. She also loves that, like her, I value self-improvement and self-development even though I do it differently than she does (as in, a little too slowly for her tastes).

Anyway, I’ll be sure to comment on other things here if I get yet another eye-opening reaction. I might be able to provide my own perspective too.

For INFPs, ISTJs act as a stable point of reference in an INFP inner world that’s constantly changing.

It’s certainly helping me. The first time I heard of Keirsey’s book was when I started reading this blog. I want to read “The Five Love Languages” next, but my local bookstores have been out of stock for awhile. I’m getting off point here. Anyway, I’m finding your blogs helpful because you’re writing from a personal perspective. You’re giving me a concrete example of an actual INFP, my 2nd one by the way. Other than my girlfriend, the only things I knew about them were the various descriptions online and in the books I read, and like you, I kept seeing the problems like how general they are and how they don’t answer the “why” of being a certain type. When I read your postings, I see an example of the sort of potential that she has and it helps me understand her better a small step at a time.

Thank you for making this blog.

Decisions are about reaching an endpoint. And I think INFPs feel that they need to choose that endpoint carefully because of the “how will I know if that will make me happy” argument have in our head constantly.

The funny thing is that. It’s never the destination. It’s the journey that makes us happy even if the destination ends up being crap.

also- i try to downplay big decisions too…. trust myself that i’ll be able to handle the ups and downs of life.

thanks for your thoughts!

…this could become a place for INFP’s to gather together (in a way).

And now I am judging myself for overuse of parenthesis, ellipsis, and analyzing myself too carefully…